The second story is about my son. My son is 18 months old. He loves stuffed animals and shopping. He loves shoes. I get told on a regular basis that if I don’t stop letting him play with his animals and go shopping with me and he is going to be “gay”. I get told that if don’t let him play with more balls and let him get more bruises and hurt more than he is not going to be tough or a manly man. I think my son is perfect even if he loves animals. I think he has to like shopping because he is my only son and my best friend. I don’t do anything without him. He likes shoes because he can put them on himself so he feels like a big boy.
It upsets me to know that I could not play after dark because it was not what a girl did. It upsets me even more to know that at only 18 months old my son is already stereotyped because he doesn’t have bruises and broken bones, and because he isn’t seen playing with the “boy” stuff as much as not. But in his defense I bought him trucks and cars and balls. He loves those too.
I see this a lot where I am from also. Even though I stay just an hour away on the coast, it is normal for girls to ride four-wheelers and hang out with boys. I used to do the same thing. That's why I always wanted to play football and basketball instead of cheerleading and got upset when I was told it wasn't lasy like.
ReplyDeleteMy friend's little brother is about 10. He plays football with the guys but has a lot of lady like tendencies. He crosses his legs and like to play with girls. Everybody picks on him and tell him he is going to be gay. I think it is just because he is around all females and his dad is never home but to yell at him. He likes girls and thinks they are pretty. I see nothing wrong with him wanting to surround himself with pretty ladies.